by: Anonymous

I wish my mother-in-law were so thoughtful. My husband and I had been trying to conceive our 2nd for almost a year, and finally found out we were pregnant a month after his brother and sis-in-law shared that they were expecting their first. I had no idea that only the first child received a baby shower, so I didn’t know what to expect at all.

Long story short: my sis-in-law’s baby shower was extremely awkward for me! I tried to stay low-key so as not to detract attention from the guests of honor. My husband and I had just found out the gender of our baby at that week’s appointment, but we didn’t want to share the big news on someone else’s special day (that day also happened to be my 20 week mark, which we also didn’t share).

I tried my best to stand back and let them enjoy the occasion, but I was completely left out of all of it! It stings a bit, especially because these are my in-laws and they never go out of their way to make me feel comfortable. Sorry for the long sob story. I just wanted to applaud you for being so thoughtful to a family outsider. 🙂

by: Sonya

A lot of people frown upon having a baby shower for children after the first born. But these days, people are using a celebration called a “baby sprinkle” in situations like these.

The idea is to “sprinkle” the baby with gifts like diapers, food, bathing supplies, etc. There is no need to “shower” the baby with gifts since the mom probably already has a lot of stuff she can use from the first pregnancy.

You could also do what is called a diaper party. It’s basically the same thing as a sprinkle, but everyone is asked to bring diapers and wipes as gifts. Babies can never have enough of those.

If possible, surprise your daughter with a ton of diapers at the daughter-in-law’s shower. I think everyone would be okay with that.