by: Sonya

There is often a lot of debate about whether or not it is okay to let your guests pay for their own meal. Personally, I think it is perfectly acceptable to ask your guests to pay for themselves if the shower is at a restaurant. But, as a courtesy, you should cover the cost of appetizers and maybe drinks too.

Remember that your guests will also bring a gift, and you don?t want them to feel like they are putting out too much money.

I answered a similar question here. This page also has wording ideas for letting your guests know that they will have to pay.